Break Free of Missed Opportunities and Build Your Future

by Jarrod

So often we find ourselves kicking our butt for not taking the chance when it was there.

Let’s be honest, everyone has made mistakes.

But the mistake that matters most is the one we make when we are thinking only of our past mistakes.

See Future Benefits. Not Where you Missed Out in the Past

Recently some friends told me about how from using their credit cards for all their business and personal expenses, they had built up enough frequent flyer points for multiple around the world tickets.

Hearing this one can be forgiven for thinking “Hey, that’s pretty cool”. After all we like free stuff (Assuming you use credit cards).

Naturally we want to try and replicate the success of others when the result is something that you want.

I went over to investigate the frequent flyer programs. I never intend to sign up for something until I check out if the benefits outweigh the costs.

So in looking at the points required to fly to some awesome places (Like Japan) I quickly realised that given my relatively low monthly expenditure rate I was not going to be accumulating points quickly from my credit card. The fastest way is to be flying frequently (who would have thought the obvious?).

But this is where something interesting happened.

Beware the Flagellant Mind

In linking getting frequent flyer points to flying my mind started bringing up all the flying I had done in the past.

Realising all my trips to Japan, India and interstate were missed opportunities to build points to free stuff my mind started a downward spiral.

It wanted to focus on all the points I had missed out on.

However, as we are guardians of our minds I caught it in that moment and examined myself.

These thoughts about the past were all useless. They would never create a brighter future or change my life for the better. In fact they were paralysing me to keep me where I am.

We know our focus creates our future.

So I shifted my focus to right now and the future.

The Power of Questions

I asked myself some very focused questions.

What do I want? Free flights. (We aren’t going to go into the benefits of global travel for personal development here)

What questions can I ask right now that will cause me to take action to get free flights in the future?

With questions that focus on what you can do right now to change your life, you start immediately getting better answers that will change your life in the direction you want.

As a result of this question I broke the negative state that was threatening to attach itself to me and focused on how I could change my life.

This is the power of questions.

Realising that by signing up for frequent flyer rewards right now I could start getting towards my goal made my next step simple.

The results of asking yourself the right questions are that you can avoid undesired emotional states and start changing your life immediately.

It also happens with the least fuss which is great.

Pick your questions wisely, change your life freely.

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S. Ali Myers - Soulful Body & Mind May 31, 2010 at 10:05 pm


Great title! I like the way you incorporated a “real story” into your post. This shows your personality. The questions you asked were pertinent, too. Hopefully, your readers will find ways to break free of their opportunities.

Keep up the good work!

- Ali (Soulful Body & Mind)


Juana February 18, 2016 at 10:33 am

Posted on incredible, that was a very good read. In ciosluncon, someone who actually thinks and understands what they are blogging about. Quite difficult to find of late, especially on the web . I bookmarked your web blog and will make sure to keep coming back here if this is how you always write. thank you, keep it up! .

Jarrod June 3, 2010 at 8:23 am

@Ali: Nice to meet you Ali.

Maybe people can even go as far as breaking through the concept of opportunity and realise that every moment is opportunity.


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