I hear people saying all the time “I love eating chocolate”, “I can’t stop eating chocolate” and a variety of other exclamations of joy. From another group of people, using some sort of focus on weight loss, also say that they “can’t stop eating chocolate” with a sense of dismay.
I love eating chocolate and with the somewhat endless availability of it in my workplace I eat a lot of it.
I also believe that we can change any area of our life including any behaviour.
I stopped eating chocolate for a month while being happy using the below strategies.
Here is the Strategy to Stop Eating Chocolate.
1. Create reasons to change this behaviour
We want to effortlessly build an emotional connection that will motivate us to move away from chocolate.
I created the following reasons for making the change:
- To prove that I could manipulate my mind to automatically change my behaviour
- To prove that I can exercise control of my diet
- To live a healthy life
- To stay skinny
- To keep healthy teeth
Here is something important to notice. I built a belief in my mind that:
not eating chocolate = healthy life
In reality this belief is bogus, far to narrow minded. Just not eating chocolate does not equal a healthy lifestyle. In fact I put on a couple of kilos this month. The point is you use beliefs that support the behaviour change. Believing that stopping eating chocolate equals a healthier lifestyle is another tank of gas on my road to stopping eating chocolate. The mind doesn’t work on what is real, it works on what you believe. What is ‘real’ is important but that is for another discussion.
2. Associate things you hate and would never do with eating chocolate
Now we are creating a absolute repulsion to make us stop eating chocolate.
Go into your mind discover a few things that you would never do, would never become, or repulses you. Then take each one of those and hold it in your mind, visualise on your left side and associate deeply. You must be able to feel how much you would never do it, how much it repulses you. As you look at this image of repulsion in your mind build it up so you can strongly feel it. Now take the other image of chocolate on your right side and mush the two images together.
At the height of emotional repulsion you bring the images together and build a repulsion that drives you to never eat chocolate.
Do this with each image and repeat a few times.
I used a couple of images. One was me becoming incredibly overweight which I would never do. I visualised me at 300 pounds, stuck in a dank dark room, unable to get out of my chair to even open the window. As the pain increased as the side of the chair dug deeper into my disgusting layers of fat I feel over onto the cold tiles of the floor. Stuck in a pool of drool from my own thousand chins it felt like I could not roll over and my drown to death. Associating that with eating chocolate you can see I am not going to do it.
Don’t stop at one associating build more repulsions. Next I took the look and feel of decayed and destroyed teeth. Have you ever put your teeth in a glass of coca-cola overnight? It is incredible how terrible they look the next morning, feel of holes and rotting. I took that imagine and replaced an image of all my teeth being like that. At the height of just how disgusting and painful it feels to have them grinding in your mouth I bring in my image of chocolate and overwhelm, making chocolate disgusting.
Nearing the end of the month I discovered a new technique which, rather than looking at potential consequences uses other behaviours you would never do. So I took the idea of hurting a baby, an idea which at the very thought of causes me to pull back and associated that in with the image of chocolate.
Doing all of this build a reaction that makes you automatically pull back whenever you see chocolate.
To use this to full effect you must reinforce the associations.
For the first couple of days do this full exercise and associate negatively with chocolate.
Every time you see chocolate in your daily life, take the negative association you feel, that repulsion and feel it even stronger. Doing this when you see chocolate in daily live really builds your repulsion to it fast. The more consistent you the better.
3. Choose a positive behaviour to replace it with
Whenever you would normally feel the desire to eat chocolate you to find a new behaviour that you can always do that will satisfy the same need.
I used to eat chocolate to satisfy the need of hunger and energy boost. So I had to find something to meet those needs adequately.
I chose to eat peanuts instead whenever I felt the desire to eat chocolate. Which is part of the reason I put on a couple of kilos ironically .
How you use this with our negative associations is as follows. You see chocolate, feel the repulsion to it strongly, then go and eat some peanuts instead.
Simple process which you repeat over and over again. Follow these steps and you will find your ability to change your behaviour greatly increased.
If you want a hand to do this with one of your own behaviours then contact me with an email and I will happily change it with you.